Sex is beautiful. Between a man and a woman who are married according to God's laws, and who are simply trying to express their love to one another, I think I have experienced nothing that is quite as beautiful. And the version that Satan sells to the world is a cheap imitation. Pornography, pre-marital sex, and even selfishness in sex in marriage are all things that Satan sells the world to get them to relieve the biological urge, and to leave the spiritual urge left totally unfulfilled.
I was weeping today thinking about pornography, and how much of an empty shell it is. I think I wept for the loss, because it is just like a dead body, which is no longer the person who had life.
I feel a great burden. I am used to going around and not stepping on people's toes, letting them believe what they believe, and I will believe what I believe. And then MK has shown me that there are times when you need to be bold, and need to stand up for what is right in the situation.
So I will not ask forgiveness in being bold. Pornography is evil. Sex outside of marriage is wrong. There is a beauty and a joy that can only be experienced through the work (yes work at sex) and the companionship of husband of wife. All else pales in comparison. It has taken me 2 years of marriage to learn that this even exists. But I also know that it is not unique, and that the Lord desires all of His children to come and partake of the beautiful gift, if they will so but appreciate the holiness that is cleaving one to the other.
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Thank you, Jennie. You're right, that does need to be said. And you said it very beautifully and appropriately.
I, too, have found myself weeping when I think of sexual transgression. Because my mom's side of the family isn't LDS, I have extended family members with different values. But it wasn't until my cousins grew up and started engaging in premarital sex that I realized what a tragedy it is that no one ever told them how much better it could be. Sex can truly be something that cements two people together in a holy way. But when used inappropriately, it can only hurt them and damage their souls. And my heart breaks for those I love who are now broken in this way and don't even know to look for healing.
I always thought Bishop Dowdle did a good job speaking out on this topic. Coming from a family where sex was a very very taboo topic, I learned an appropriate attitude from Bishop Dowdle and his wife.
I often reflect on things that the Dowdles told us regarding sex. I really appreciated their openness.
And thank you for posting this, Jennie. Sex shouldn't be taboo, because if you don't talk about it you can't teach your children that it is supposed to be sacred. That was my experience -- my parents didn't respect the sanctity of sex, and so it never was discussed because they didn't see that it was even an issue. I am grateful for church leaders and good friends who helped me to realize that waiting for marriage was the right decision.
And ... am I the MK you refer to, out of curiosity? And if so ... what did I say that was bold? And if not ... I was just wondering.
No, the MK is my friend from TSC. That's just his tag on there. His real name is Dan, but there are like 40 Dans in TSC, so that is not very descriptive, heh.
Wow, great blog! I totally agree with you. Well said!
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Oh, yeah...why are you trying to keep up with my family? They suck!
When it comes to pornography I feel the worst for those who participate in the making of such things. Those people do not understand how valuable they are! Nor how much God loves them and the beauty that is sex between a man and woman in marriage.
My family did discuss sex but my family did not I think understand the eternal glory of it, and perhaps is a little frightened to. We need to do our part and raise our families to understand that God loves us and has created an amazing way for us to increase our love eternally in marriage, and in no other way or in any other forum can this be done.
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